This, my boss taught me.

She demands I respect her. (I know this because she shouted that command in my face.) And I, far too passively, demand she earn my respect.

Well lady, here's a tip: When the meeting planning and special project manager goes around the office handing out the May calendars to be filled in by employees and returned with the days that they will be out of the office, do not greet her like she is Santa Claus, exclaiming: "Oh goodie! What days shall I take off this month!" ... and then turn around and play the Aretha Franklin card.